How does couple counselling work?

The couple relationship is often extremely challenging because it will bring out a depth of issues that may not surface in other less intimate relationships. I see any presenting issue as a “couple” issue rather than assigning blame and responsibility on just one partner, both parties always play a relevant role in the presenting issue.

When a couple comes to counselling they are usually in some kind of crisis and at the end of their own resources. Therapy will begin by us signing a contract and creating a mandate and contract for the work we will do together. I will taking a full and detailed history of each person and any relevant information, current or historical will be used to create a foundational basis from which we will work together to resolve the issues that have made you seek help. You will be given resources to stabilise you as a couple and shift you out of crisis and then we can work towards your defined goals and resolution.

Couple issues include:

Intimacy issues


Historic trauma



Race and Religion


Financial difficulties

Chronic illness and disability



Communication difficulties

As our therapeutic relationship develops you will be encouraged to see the relationship in a more objective manner. I will observe how you interact as a couple and see how you communicate together and give you tools and insights that can help you improve your connection in a healthy way. If there is any dysfunctional behaviour support will be recommended and often a different perspective of the origins of the behaviour can really help to shift and change a pattern that is causing difficulty.

Support will be given so that couples can express their emotions in a healthy way, often these emotions are very old and not even related to the issue that is currently triggered with the couple. We often choose a partner who represents the positive and negative of our childhood carers and this may trigger old wounds that need therapeutic support to unravel and resolve. You will learn some new communication techniques and importantly learn to actively listen to one another.

Building resources and strengths as a couple is a very good way of strengthening the bonds that will help you cope with inevitable ups and downs of life as a couple. As you change within your relationship you may need help adapting to change which is inevitable as we age and our bodies and roles within our relationship adapt. I can support you to create a new relationship vision and pursue your dreams as a couple and individuals within your couple relationship.

Couple counselling is different to other therapy modalities, you may be given assignments and exercises to complete at home. This kind of therapy involves more interventions than listening therapy but the goals and pace of the work will be governed by you and the outcomes that you require.

My fees are £60 for an individual and £70 for a couple session.
All sessions last 60 minutes but longer sessions can be arranged.
It can be really helpful to have a longer session for couples, the cost of a 90 minute session is £105.00, 120 minutes is £140.00
Payment can be made by cash on the day or by BACS

I am currently a member of the College of Relationship and Sexual Therapists (COSRT) and adhere to their Code of Ethics and Practice when working with couples and psychosexual issues, I am working towards accreditation. I am fully supervised by a COSRT approved supervisor.

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